How to Spend Valentines Day

Love is in the air and Valentines Day is just around the corner. We see hearts, flowers, chocolates now selling at the mall and online. Lots of dinner promos are being offered from different hotels and restaurants, romantic getaways, gimmicks on how to celebrate the love month.

Spending time on Valentines Day should be special. It should be memorable. But you don’t need to break the bank to celebrate it. There are a lot of ways to commemorate heart’s day. It’s also very important to enjoy each other’s company as a couple. To find time to spend with each other is one of the ingredients to having a healthy relationship. It’s a time to focus on just the two of you, away from work, kids, bills to pay, house chores, and other responsibilities.

Here’s our simple guidelines on how we can enjoy and have fun on Valentines Day with our special someone:

1. Watch a movie and go to your favorite restaurant. Whether it’s fine dining or fast-food, it doesn’t matter, as long as you’re together.

2. No way to go out? Delivery is the key. It’s also an excuse not to prepare and wash the dishes and plus points that you’ll get to enjoy the food with your family.

3. Have a movie night at home. Watch a romcom or action-packed movie .

4. Do you still have your wedding video? Watch it and reminisce your memorable day together.

5. Gather all your old photos and have a good laugh while looking back at the past.

6. Cook his/her favorite dishes.

7. Let your kids sleep early so you can play board games.

8. Walk around your village or a park and hold hands.

9. Have a good heart to heart talk.

10. Write each other love letters.

11. Go to a spa/salon and have body/couple massage together.

12. Buy something special that you’ll both treasure together; ring, twinning clothes, etc.

First Year Marriage Tips

Our wedding day is one of the most exciting events of our life. Almost every woman at least has a dream wedding in mind. From the motif to the table setting down to the wedding car. We love the idea of weddings but we tend to forget that marriage is not a one-time event. It is being as one with our spouse. Forever. Wedding vows are not there because it is part of the program and you need to say it in front of your guests. You are not only making a covenant to your husband but most importantly to God.

Forever is such a strong word. According to the dictionary, forever means continually; for all future time; for always.

In order for us to have a good marriage, we need to build a good foundation, deeply rooted with love, and willingness to commit.

Here are some basic tips on how we can have a solid foundation:

  1. Make God the center of your marriage.
  2. Dream together. Make plans together. Communicate how you will build your family, and how you will handle your finances. Set standards but with realistic expectations.
  3. Be patient with one another. Learn to adjust. Learn to forgive. Be mindful of words to use. Sometimes we think our intentions are good but if we use wrong choice of words we can end up hurting our spouse.
  4. Always remember that you are two different people. You may not always see eye to eye but you have to respect each other’s views. Accepts each other’s differences.
  5. Always give time to one another. Make time. Look for a babysitter to take care of your kids. Have a weekly date, even if it’s just to eat or hang out.
  6. Prioritize each other’s needs. Learn to compromise. Don’t compare.

Always remember: It takes two to tango. The first few years of marriage is very crucial, you need to be on the same page as your spouse.

May these tips help you grow in your marriage.

Discover Your Love Language

When I was a little girl, my dream was to be a wife and a mom. To have a loving husband and family. We all have that dream of a happy marriage. I thought it would be easy if you married your soulmate and the love of your life. In reality, it doesn’t work that way. There is no easy way to keep a marriage alive. It takes a committed decision to stay married.

Being married for almost 14 years has taught me that we are two different persons. We have our own opinions, different approaches to situations, different ways of thinking, and yet at the end of the day, we are still one. We need to have an intentional commitment to keep our marriage. Husband and wife alone cannot build a successful marriage. We always keep in mind that marriage is the union between God, husband, and wife. We have to decide everyday that we will accept, respect, and love each other.

Marriage is hard work. In order for us to keep our marriage working we need to identify our love language. We all have different love languages. We all have different ways of showing our love and affection to our spouse. For us to understand and focus on how we can love our spouse more, we need to know what our love language is and understand that everyone gives and receives love differently.

According to Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages, for us to keep the love alive in our marriage, we need to know how our love speaks:
1. Affirmation
2. Physical Touch
3. Receiving Gifts
4. Quality Time
5. Acts of Service

Each of the love language teaches us how to express love in different ways:
Affirmation – using words to build up the other person. “Thanks for
taking out the garbage.” Not – “It’s about time you took the garbage out. The flies were going to carry it out for you.”
Receiving Gifts – a gift says, “He was thinking about me. Look what he got for me.”
Acts of Service – Doing something for your spouse that you know they would like. Cooking a meal, washing dishes, vacuuming floors, are all acts of service.
Quality time – giving your spouse your undivided attention. Taking a walk together or sitting on the couch with the TV off – talking and listening.
Physical touch – holding hands, hugging, kissing, sexual intercourse, are all expressions of love.

*excerpts from the book The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman

Knowing our love language can help us meet our emotional needs. Relationships grow better when we understand each other.

Take the Quiz

Take the quiz here to know your love language. Don’t forget to share with your spouse.